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You know what they say - dating is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you're gonna get! But don't worry, with these tips, you'll be a first date master in no time.
How to nail a first date
Presentation Matters
Listen up, fellas. As a dating coach and matchmaker, I've seen it all when it comes to first dates. The way you present yourself matters big time. You don't need to go full suit and tie, but put some effort into your outfit, you know? Make sure it's clean, fits well, and suits your vibe. If you're taking her mini-golfing, maybe skip the three-piece.
Be Punctual
Now, punctuality. This one is huge. Nobody wants to be that person awkwardly waiting around. If you're running late, shoot her a text to let her know. But ideally, you want to arrive a little early, scope out the scene, and look all cool and collected when she gets there. Speaking from experience, getting lost and showing up 20 minutes late for your first date is a massive turn-off.
Listen Actively
Once you've nailed the arrival, the real fun begins - conversation. This isn't an interrogation, so don't just fire off a million questions. Listen to what she's saying, ask follow-ups, and really try to connect over your shared interests and experiences. Put that phone away and give her your full attention - we've all been on dates where the other person can't stop scrolling. Keep things light at first until you both feel comfortable opening up more.
Keep the Conversation Balanced
Balance is key here. You want to share about yourself, but also leave room for her to speak. Avoid anything too heavy or controversial at this stage - politics, exes, that weird uncle who collects garden gnomes. There's plenty of time for that stuff way, way down the line if things go well.
Be Yourself
Most importantly, be yourself! Don't try to be someone you're not just to impress her. The real you is what she'll see eventually anyway, so you might as well put it all out there. If she's not into the real, genuine, quirks-and-all you, then que sera sera, my friend.
Mind Your Manners
Remember your manners, too. Hold the door, tip well if you're somewhere with service, and compliment her when you can. If you put any thought into planning your first date, make sure to share why you chose that activity or spot - it shows you care about making it an enjoyable experience for both of you.
Manage Your Nerves
I know, I know, the first date can be nerve-wracking. Just take some deep breaths, remind yourself that she's likely just as nervous, and try to relax and be present. If things get awkward, own it with a joke! Lean into it. If you can laugh at yourself it's insanely attractive.
Respect Boundaries
Most crucially, respect her boundaries. Don't get all touchy-feely unless she's clearly into it. Read body language cues, don't overstep any lines on a first date, and for crying out loud, don't try to pressure her into anything she seems uncomfortable with. If you're not sure, just ask - communication is key.
Follow Up
If things go well and you want to see her again, no games. Just shoot her a simple text saying you had a great time and would love to do it again soon. Playing hard to get is for middle schoolers.
Now you know what to do on a first date
At the end of the day, a first date is a chance to make a genuine connection and have some fun doing it. Don't put too much pressure on it being perfect. If it's meant to be, it'll be. If not, hey, maybe you'll get a funny story out of it for the next one! Now get out there, tiger.
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As a transformational dating coach, I guide young men who are overwhelmed by the dating app maze in finding authentic, meaningful relationships. I offer 1:1 coaching sessions, as well as empowering dating profile photos for successful online dating. Contact me and schedule a free discovery call. See you on the bright side of dating!